A
flash of my cell phone told me that it was eight in the morning and I was still
in bed, which was unusual of me in any of the other times of the year. It was
my holiday and it was my 10 year old favourite annual ritual of spending the
vacation at Meghana’s place. She was my dearest friend for years now. It was
her constant complaint that I over worked; she always called me a workaholic
which I did not deny. For me working was synonymous to living. It is my pride
that I chose what I should do with my time and what I chose had me working
every single moment. Basically I am an educator in a primary school, a
professor of psychology department in an evening college and a number of other
activities and interesting people occupied my schedule every day, and every day
was different than the other, I made it so. Imaginably I hardly had the time
for a “do nothing” break. But it was Meghana’s concern that I did have one. She
insisted every year that I pay her and her daughter a visit, where and when I
myself got pampered limitlessly with the luxuries of laziness!
So,
finally when I made my decision to wake up, I tucked my blanket around little
Maya, Megha’s five year old daughter, who was still asleep and got out of the
room.
“You can’t sleep longer, can you?” It seemed like she herself woke up only a
little before.
“I have already broken my record of late
mornings.”
“O
come on! It was 2 in the morning when you told me good night, baby”, we always
talked late into nights, about everything and about nothing. Our talks ended
for the night only when my eye lids unknowingly shuts down because it cannot
keep up any longer. “I don’t want to sleep away all the time I have with you
buddy.”
I
settled in the balcony, where I waited for her to bring our tea. With nothing
much to do I signed in to Facebook. My wall was loaded with Radhika’s pics, it
seemed that she had returned from her honey moon and have shared all the pics
she thought she could. Radhika is another one of my best friends recently wedded
the man who embodied all her expectations (or so she thought as of now). In all
her pics, they were both smiling and laughing extremely enjoying their marital
bliss, there was no doubt she deserved all this. I posted my comment happily
infected by her happiness with my hearty wishes for the handsome couple. Just
in time Megha found me grinning big looking at my tablet.
Impulsively
I showed her Radha’s photographs. Sadly Radha’s happiness did not seem to touch
her. In fact she lost even the little smile she had. She just said mostly to
herself “It all begins like this, hope that it does not end for her like it did
for me.” I felt ashamed for not being thoughtful enough. The images brought
memories of her own unsuccessful marriage which she was trying hard to forget.
Regretting my action, I patted her, she gave me a sad smile, “Not everyone
could get as unlucky as I did right? “ She paused. ”I know it is foolish to
sulk every time I see a happy couple though it reminds me of my wounds.” I felt
uncomfortable for the bad scene. Right then,
Maya came running and huddled on Megha’s lap and planted a good morning
kiss on her cheek, that helped Megha recover quickly. She pulled her daughter
closer, with a big grin she said “I have her now and she is all I care about, it
is time that I stopped licking my wounds and let it go.” Saying so she left to
prepare breakfast.
It
was four complete years since Maya’s arrival into Megha’s life. Unlike a normal
mother, Megha had waited for this fairy for five whole years. It was more than
just struggle, to handle the event of letting go of a relationship that was
held so dear for so long and suffer with the memories of the past and the
wounds of the present. After her divorce, an adoption was a way through which
Megha sought to bring in meaning to her life but it was not easy. Anyways , the
results it brought with it was magical. Maya cured Megha of all that we were
afraid could ruin Megha. So every year we made it a point to have a blast for a
birthday celebration.
The
birthday went too well, she looked like an angel in the dress I bought for her.
Maya was so happy with the teddy bear her mom presented her. I teased Maya that the teddy bear was bigger
than her. Megha, Maya, and all her little friends had a beautiful day. It was a
BIG day for Megha and for the rest of us. After the celebration I made
arrangements to return. Megha and Maya accompanied me to the bus station. Maya
insisted that I stay longer. I told her I would the next time. She said, with a
look of innocent sincerity in her lovely eyes that she would have grown taller
than the teddy bear the next time I met her, her innocence brimming in her big
eyes. Megha had tears in her eyes while she said, “I have already started to
wait for the next time you are going to make it here, please take care of
yourself. Love you loads.” My bus started on its route, as I waved them good
bye.
Throughout
the journey back, I replayed all the wonderful events of the visit, happy and
content with the bag load of memories I was carrying with me. And then my
thoughts turned to things at home. Mom had called me every single day. But
strangely I got no calls from Rajiv, my only brother during the entire trip of
two weeks. All I gathered from Amma was that his wife is not feeling well. Though we dint call each other every other day,
we managed to constantly keep in touch. I tried calling him once from Megha’s
place but the call went unanswered. So I made a mental note to check on him as
soon as possible.
Finally
I was back home and it took me few day to sync in with my everyday schedule.
Mom was happy that I returned. She missed me whenever I was away, whether it
was for work or for vacation.
I called Rajiv again. His tone had a lot of sadness in it. He
informed that Nithya had had her fourth miscarriage last week as a result of
which things have got really bad at their home.
It
has been three years since Rajiv has married. Rajiv and Nithya made a good
couple. But things dint seem very well after they decided to have a baby. The first time there was news that she was
pregnant, all of us were happy. But the happiness did not last long. It took a
lot of time to settle things into normality. So it was imaginable how bad
things could be at his place. He said he
will meet me the next day.
“We
got our reports analysed last week. You believe me or not since then home means
hell to me”.
“What
actually is the problem? Have the tests identified the problem?”
“The
problem is that the reports suggest that it might be because of some uterine
problems. And she cannot digest that.”
“The
saddest part is in her eyes I am her rival. It makes it so difficult to
understand the reality just because I have no problems as per the reports. She
has stopped talking to me altogether and avoids me totally. I don’t know what I
am to do!”
I
could understand his feelings and hers as well. He loved her and a baby is not
going to change that. As far as she is concerned, always being an achiever in
everything she did, it was difficult for her to accept that things could go
wrong. It was not hatred but insecurity and non-acceptance that was causing the
problem
“Give
her some time if that is what she wants and let her know you still love her no
matter what. Things like these are very hard for a woman to digest.”
“I
know. And I am trying my best but it is not easy for me too especially when she
makes it seem like I am the cause for everything!”
“Things
will get better. You have to be on her side.”
There
was nothing more to say, for him and me. He left with a weak smile looking
years older than he was. Some problems are complicated only time can provide
the solution.
I returned home, feeling sad myself for
whatever happened, at times we are limited to do just that how much ever we
cared for the other. But my home had different things to bother me with. It was
loaded with people. One of our family friends had turned up to invite us in
person for their daughter’s wedding. I personally have nothing against wedding nor
the people who are to be wedded, but what makes things worse is that such
invitations reminds my mom to talk me into a wedding which I have denied so
far. No matter how many ever rational reasons I give her, she never stops
trying and for some days there is a big void in the family till we patch up. I
don’t know how long this melodrama shall continue! I am already thirty five. Is
not there any age bar that disqualified people for marriage, I hope there was
one, it would have brought some peace and hope for people like me.
“The
wedding is at Guruvayoor Anu on the first Sunday of next month, can you come
with me?”
“Ma
you know I don’t attend weddings! But because it is a Sunday and it has been a
long time since we went to Guruvayoor together, I think I’ll go with you. But
in return you have to promise me you will not talk about my marriage or
anything related to it when we get there, deal?!
“You
should be a mother to understand what I am going through, answering people why
I have not yet gotten my daughter married! Please tell me what to tell them and
I won’t bother you forever.”
“Ma
let’s not go through it all over again, please. I have given you the answer so
many times. Now answer my question, is it a deal or no deal? I have got to make
arrangements.”
“It
is a deal. You show such generosities to me only once in a while I don’t want
to waste it.”
“That
is great!” I walked up to her putting my arm around her I asked, “Why are you
so adamant to get me out of this home, ma?”
“You
silly girl, do you think that is what is in my head?” she planted a forehead
kiss and continued, “hmmm, I have failed to convince you with the reasons to
get married, now all I can do is surrender it to God. Let Guruayoorappan make
you understand.”
I
got the tickets reserved and made arrangements for our stay there. The day of
the journey arrived and we were seated, the train started.
With
the rhythmic motion of the train, my mom drifted to sleep and I lost myself in
the train of thoughts and memories, memories that became the meaning of my
life.
Ten
years back I had been to a service camp that was aimed at improvising the
healthcare conditions in remote rural areas. It was my first camp and it gave
me enormous wealth of experience. On the day of our return all the volunteers
were provided with transportation to the nearest bus station that was 40 km
away. The travel from the camp to the station lasted an hour and a quarter, the
seventy five minutes that changed everything for me.
Lucky
I was to get a seat by the window. All the events of the camp ran like a movie
inside my head bring with it so many emotions, overwhelmed by it I had tears in
my eyes. I would miss everything that had become so dear to me in the last two
weeks, the people, the energy, the team spirit, the pride of being able to
bring change and most of all the company of a close friend, his name was
Krishna, my team leader, the most dynamic person I met. His perspective was
amazing and his insights were the coolest. We were quick friends and that
itself gave me such pride. As I was replaying all the wonderful things in my
mind, I heard his familiar voice, “Has someone occupied the seat beside you?”
I
shook my head. He crammed his baggage in the little space and settled beside
me. “So we are about to begin the journey to end the camp.” He smiled. “How was
it for you?”
With
multitudes of emotions coursing through me, I choked and finally got out these
words, ”It was too good!! I would call it fantastic!!!”
“It
was too fantastic for me that I would call it LOVE!!” said he. I gave him a
“I-am-not-understanding-it” look.
“You
don’t understand grammatically incorrect sentences, right, my dear English
teacher?” he teased.
“Well,
the camp was too fantastic for me as well but more importantly I fell in love
with you.”
He
paused to check my reaction. I guess I was frozen. “Are you listening?”
“Yes
I am trying to” I answered honestly.
He
continued, “I believe that love is mutual and I am confident you share those
feelings with me.”
“You
are confident about what I think?!”
“Yes,
the difference is that maybe you classify it as friendship which I call love!
Love is sometimes too much friendship dear”
I
could only remain silent dazed by all that I was hearing.
“Well
you have a lifetime to figure out what you feel for me, just friendship or
something more!” he seemed hurt.
“It
is love”, I told it almost automatically.
He
grinned his biggest grin. “Now that said and the fact that we are to return to
the lives which we have built for ourselves so far and grown used to before we
came here in about an hour, how are
supposed to proceed with our love? The last few days I have given it serious
thought and what I am to say, is for you to remember for a lifetime in the name
of our love.”
He
continued, “You are the girl I love and so I don’t want to give you any false
promises of being your life partner, as far as I have understood sweetheart,
each one’s life is an exclusive design and even if I did become your husband
for most of the time I could only bear witness to the many events that might
happen in your life. There is no partnership; your life is solely copyrighted
to you. But in the name of a partner I do not want to encroach your life and
lay down a thousand more constraints. Life alone can be one’s partner.”
Saying
so he took my hands, one in each of his, tears tickled down my cheek
comprehending what he just said. “So I want you to get married to your life,
its events and experiences which alone is real and only yours and let me be
your best man in the wedding.” He placed one of my hands in the other and
kissed it.
“Live
it every moment with the pride of a woman who made the man she loved feel like
a miracle and with the tremendous strength of our love. I want you to
understand my darling that I am not abandoning you but doing the best I can,
for the good of you, me and our love. Something of such intensity, wildness, I
think should not be turned mundane by investing our lives just to understand
the depths of it and letting know each other our love which is already known
till we ultimately get bored of it. There is a big world out there and a short
life in which we are to do so many things. Let our love and the happy things we
shared be a forever motivation to get us up and moving when the storm of life
hits us.”
His
own emotions choked him, he could speak no more. He pulled me closer, it was
blessed to place my head on his shoulders. For the next divine thirty minutes
we sat there silently his tears trickling on my hand which was still in his,
along with mine, relishing and etching the beautiful moments into our memories.
The station arrived and we alighted from the
cab. Before leaving me to live my life the way he just asked me to, he held my
hand and told “This moment and the part of you that loves me is forever mine.
Remember, I love you always. Live your life well.”
And
he left as my eyes tracked to the very end possible till he became invisible.
It seemed like I could see through his head the broad grin he wore as he walked
so quickly like he always did to his own world. I could sense that something
has changed in him as it has changed in me, and this change is called the love
we share that which is going to live with us forever in the literal sense.
I
was back to my own world and for almost a year ran those moments over and over
in my head, sometimes I was convinced that it was so crazy, and some other
times I felt it was the most genuine and mature thing that could happen, and
the latter opinion stayed with me.
Whatever
it was, the best thing that happened was the new strength that I feel every
moment in my life. The lives of my friends and family showed me the different
stages a relationship went through, which made me realize what he said about
life and its copyrights, the man I was blessed to meet rocketed me into
such a space in life that I am almost untouched by trivialities, maybe I was
alone in the eyes of people but I never felt lonely, the constant company of
life and its extra ordinary experiences enriched every moment as I lived along.
It is said that beauty lies in the eyes that
beholds, it was as if the man I fell in love with had placed a pair of eyes within
me that assured me of my beauty. At 40 when my hairs have started to grey I
still feel as beautiful as ever, married to life, married with love.